“Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand” -Alain de Botton, 2004
I’ve been thinking a lot about not what I want to be (position, title) but who I want to be (value system). Your value system may be conditional on your immediate environment, the people you interact with, and what you read and listen to. Confidence in who you want to be can be challenging in environments and cultures that condition us to value the pursuit of status (may be judged as success) or to desire the emotion of happiness. I desire the ability to responsibly use a position and establish meaning in self exploration.
We are susceptible to the influence of external voices about what we require to be satisfied and what to aim for so as to flourish as human beings (Alain de Botton, 2004). Do you know yourself enough to know what you want to become? Learning from others can be your greatest asset in understanding yourself.
Be observant of other people’s behaviors, the qualities they display, their choice of words, their view of the world, their conquest of status over others (how do they use that?), and their genuine expression of care for others. The intent isn’t to understand others but to discern interactions, elements of anxieties, and virtues of character so you can use them in molding who you want to be and who you don’t want to be. You can’t do this without experiences and interactions followed by reflection.
Putting these thoughts into building my personal training/coaching model would be making training and interactions with others meaningful, being responsible for a position of influence over others, considering the impact of word choice, questioning ideological statements within our professional field, questioning the environment you place yourself in, and maintaining an awareness of your ambitions in what or who you are trying to be.